well well well , i have good news , and i'm about to lay my silly head on the chopping block so you guys can cleanly chop it right off .........
getting back to the "connection no internet " issue , someone in the previous comments mentioned that the phone and camera were now connected, and he was dead right , at that point i should have ignored the " no internet " bit of the message,and opened the nikon wmu app , because if i had of done that , i would have found that everything was working as it should !!!
but ....... what threw me off was taking notice of the no internet part of the message , and hence i never got to opening the app , ( i did on other occasions but that was the "authentification issue " which was resolved by resetting the network on the camera )
so today in desperate frustration i tried the app , and there it was ........ so i must apologise , and thank everyone for their valuable input
i can now , get on with the process of learning photography ........... more questions on that subject to follow , i have no doubt